A 13hour Shift, And My Honest Review on "The polygamist"

Hello everyone, today is already a long day for me, my night was short because i was busy watching the trending series and I also woke up early, I was going to do a full shift at work, from 8 am till 9 pm,i feel so tired even before my day even got started.

Got to work and went about my day. Guess what? I didn't even know what to eat,I just had to settle for bread and tea. One thing I have noticed after eating is that you tend to feel sleepy afterwards. I pressed my phone a little, took a nap (remember I said I didn’t get enough sleep at night),I've been on my phone since i woke up trying to finish this interesting trending series called "The Polygamist."

Watching this series while managing a heavy day got me thinking deeply about real-world and family problems.

In my opinion,women are often the enablers of men treating us the way they want,in most homes where parents constantly fight and the environment is toxic, the children look at their parents as people who cannot give them advice because most of these children are stuck in survival mode, they only feel pity for their parents most especially their mothers. They grow up feeling like their parents can’t train them enough, so they end up growing up on the streets because the home itself is too toxic.

This environment completely warps how children see the world most male children raised in these setups grow up seeing women purely as objects of sexual attraction. Truth be told, some male children grow up in survival mode because they are completely messed up,they don’t even know how to love anymore and women truly need to do better,love yourself to the extent that they will call you selfish.

My Honest Character Review

Jonasi Gomora is the real definition of a narcissist,he puts everything into showing the world that he is a good man but behind the scene, he is a cheater, an abuser, and so much worse.
What makes it infuriating is how the women around him continue to enable his rubbish, giving him the power to do even more damage.
His character proves that money and power can make a man think he no longer needs anyone.The part that disappointed me the most wasn’t even the polygamy,it was how his wealth destroyed his relationship with his older brother, turning family into a cold hierarchy,crossing boundaries by sleeping with his daughter’s friend just because he had the power to do it proved one thing having power means absolutely nothing if you lose the people who genuinely care for you. Women really need to do better when it comes to enabling men like this.

Joyce Gomora honestly made me reconsider marriage a little. Watching her broke my heart because she loved deeply and gave so much of herself to keeping her family and marriage together that somewhere along the way, she started losing herself. She is a reminder that love alone isn’t enough if you must sacrifice your peace to be chosen. It is dangerous to make being a wife your entire identity.

Magesh made me think about how staying silent can also hurt people. Sometimes, not choosing a side still becomes a choice, and watching him reminds me that seeing something wrong and doing nothing can change people too.

Menzi
I’m really disappointed in him because he had every chance to become a better man than his father.
He grew up seeing his faults clearly, he understood the damage it caused and he knew exactly what not to repeat but instead of breaking the cycle, he chose to step right into his shoes. It feels like he ignored everything he witnessed and repeated the same patterns anyway, and that’s what hurts the most. I expected growth from him, but what I got felt like history repeating itself in a different form.

Mpume genuinely made me feel for children in complicated relationships she reminded me that adults always think kids don’t notice things, but they do. Watching her made me think about how children end up carrying emotions they never created and learning about love from people who are still figuring it out themselves.

Essie
Oh, I hate bad parenting with all my heart. Essie’s negligence is quiet now, but it will be loud later in her daughter's life. When a parent focuses only on survival instead of emotionally showing up, children grow up believing that emotional distance is the love they deserve. Neglect shapes how someone loves for years.

Matipa made me think about how being chosen doesn’t always mean you won. At first it feels easy to judge her, but then you realise she also wanted to feel important, loved, and secure.
Her story reminded me that sometimes people chase positions and titles thinking they’ll finally feel enough, then realise the reality isn’t what they imagined.

Lindani honestly frustrated me because she had the potential to be a good, grounded friend to Mpume, but she never really respected boundaries the way she should have. She got too caught up in the same environment and ended up making choices that just added more damage to everything.
The biggest thing for me was how far it went when she got involved with Jonasi.it completely crossed a line and showed how messy her judgment had become. It felt like her background and desire for quick money and attention influenced her more than her future did, and instead of rising above it, she got pulled into the same cycle of poor decisions.
Her character honestly felt like a reminder that not everyone who is close to you is actually protecting your peace.

Sarah really disappointed me because all along she knew the truth… What also worries me about her is her mindset that if a man provides for you, then you owe him something in return. That way of thinking is going to hurt her in the long run, turning love into a transaction instead of something real.

This series genuinely opened my eyes to a lot of things. Every single episode had me sitting there saying, "WTF" over and over again!

Looking back on the full story, these are the lessons that will stay with me
Forgiveness and Access are not the same thing you can forgive someone and still decide they no longer deserve a seat at your table. You can wish someone well and still keep them at arm's length.

So many people are taught to sacrifice their happiness, lower their standards, and tolerate disrespect just to keep relationships but this story shows the massive emotional cost of constantly putting yourself last.

What struck me most was how realistic it felt. It shows that no matter how much you do for someone, you cannot force them to love, respect, value, or appreciate you.

If a person wants to treat you well, they will If they don't, no amount of self sacrifice will change that.
This wasn't just entertainment for me it was a profound lesson on self-worth, boundaries, and knowing when to walk away from situations that no longer serve you.

And guess who is incredibly happy to finally head home? I’m rounding up my tasks now and will be done with work soon. Sadly, the hustle doesn't stop because I’ll be right back here again tomorrow morning after church service.

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